Why My Dad Says I’m Unemployable..

Why My Dad Says I’m Unemployable..

I’ve always rebelled against systems and done things my way; but, that didn’t always go over well in school, at a job or with my parents rules and beliefs. I didn’t like anything that bounded me and always felt like I had a better way of doing things.
Teachers, family, my peers and society attempted to put me into a uniformed box by telling me what I can and can not do, say and think – going against everything I believed in – Including my personal freedom.
It seemed that in most schools and businesses, there was a lack of team or leadership skills and it was painful and discouraging when my ideas and feedback was disregarded without any discussion or consideration. I felt let down and disappointed by societies suppression of individuality and the outdated systems that create conformity.

Even though I went from high school drop out, who was lost and confused; there was a driving thirst inside that wanted more out of life than the social systems imposed on me.
Through courage and determination I found my way!
I became a personal trainer, began running events, and owned an integrative medical centre.
The key to my success in these areas, and continues to be, is that they were expressions of my life’s purpose and my passion to support others in creating the best life possible. To support others in also living their purpose, from the heart, with a sense of freedom and in a state of gratitude and happiness.

At 26, after losing 80lbs and then becoming a personal trainer, I felt a calling and longing for a deeper understanding of myself and life. I set out in search to learn more. I attended a Tony Robbins event called Date With Destiny that rattled me to the bone. It turned my world upside down and it totally changed my life.

It was at that event that I realized I didn’t have to keep pushing against my conditioning, but instead, I could step into my greatest potential! I didn’t have to have a job just to pay bills and keep a roof over my head. I could actually do something I love, that I’m passionate about, that would make a difference in this world and have a positive impact on others. I could get paid to do all of that!
So can YOU!

At that event I called my boss, at the time, and told him I quit.
The taste of sweet freedom to be my own person and do things on my terms has been the best decision I have ever made!
I’ve never looked back and my life has never been the same.

I must say, however, being your own boss is not luxurious: it takes commitment to yourself, your purpose, and to something greater than any one person. It means learning and growing everyday. Through your passion you will find better and more efficient ways of doing the things you don’t always want to do. It means long hours and laser like focus to create your vision. It means falling, a lot, and getting back up. It means a lot of no’s until you get a yes. It means trusting yourself and listening to your inner guidance, even when the outside world is saying something else. It means YOU are solely responsible for your wins and your losses. You fail, you learn, you move on, or, you allow it to consume you and lose sight of what you’re here for.
The great thing is, that it is all YOUR choice.

Then, eventually, you learn about something called balance, which is the only thing that keeps you sane. It’s your saving grace. It’s where you refuel to keep going.

After all the hard work, commitments, sweat and tears, you start to see the light. You get glimpses into the impact your life’s work is having on the world and those around you. That impact is what continually stokes your inner flame.
When you become successful, in whatever form that takes on for you, you have a genuine sense of living your truth, a deeper peace and knowing that you’re aligned with your purpose. You know that what you’re sharing and contributing with the world is much bigger than just you alone..
It becomes an expression of your heart, of what you feel you came here to do.
It becomes a space of soulful gratitude that is unexplainable with words.

Since I was a kid I’ve always beat to my own drum. My dad told me that from a young age I knew what I wanted and always went for it. There’s something inside of me that has an innate knowing of what is true. I listened to that truth and no matter what anyone else had to say, I followed it.
I believe you have that too.

I’m inviting you to fully step into your Greatness and Purpose..

To do more than just survive each day, to change your routine, to do something different, do what inspires you! Get uncomfortable. Do something you’re terrified of but have always wanted to do. Live this life to the fullest! Everything out on the table. No regrets, no holding back. Live your life the way you know it can be.

I leave you with one of my favourite quotes to live by..

“Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming “Wow! What a Ride!”

~ Hunter S. Thompson

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Self Acceptance

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Why is it that we are so much more forgiving of those who mistreat us or are not kind then we are of forgiving ourselves?

What is it about our own thoughts that keep us feeling bad about ourselves and continually beating ourselves up for choices we made in the past?

Why can’t we just let go, just have as much understanding and compassion for ourselves as we do for other human beings?

How do we create that compassion, Love, understanding and appreciation for ourselves in order to know and trust that everything is perfect the way it is and that ultimately we are taken care of?  Maybe we are Loved and accepted Unconditionally by Source.  That sometimes the decisions we make are guided by Source in order to learn the things we need to learn and evolve in Spirit, to remember who we are and our Truth.

Consider that the choices we make actually are what we needed to create the life we truly long for in our hearts and that Source knows that and is providing the opportunities for that to happen?

What if, it’s all totally perfect and all we need to do is trust, let go, have faith and that will open unlimited possibilities of Love, Compassion and Understanding that we long for and is just waiting for us?

Maybe, just maybe, our experience – all of this – is perfectly aligned. It’s time to let go now.  You can trust.  You are Loved Unconditionally and you are Accepted as perfect and whole just the way you are.  There are no mistakes, no what if’s, no regrets.  There are only deeper messages, deeper meanings, deeper lessons and deeper Love and acceptance for Self.  Whatever is happening is to create space for you to Love Yourself Unconditionally so that you can Manifest the perfection of Life.  It’s happening so you can remember and live your deepest truth. So you can see and feel the Magnificence that is you.

Surrender, Trust, let go, Believe.

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Love Without Rules

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What if the love the we share with that special person really has nothing to do with them?
What if we are just looking for the right setup, love rules, trust and circumstances to express the love that is already inside our hearts?
What if we threw caution to the wind, let go of the rules and just loved that way all the time? No reason, no fear and just let it all hang out…

I’ve thought about and asked these questions a few times in my life.
I’ve realized that it doesn’t matter who I choose and whether I think the circumstance are “right” to be vulnerable and share my love.  It takes courage and a longing for something deeper to love beyond our own rules, control and expectations.

When we put our expectations on others to act and react the way we would, we take away the possibility of ever experiencing true and authentic love.  Loving isn’t about trying to mould another to fit our image of who and how we think they should be. Love is about coming from that place that is never unwavering by another. A place that is and has always been inside of us. A place we can access anytime, anywhere and whenever we choose to connect with it.
There’s no ego, no rules, no expectations, just vulnerability and authentic love, compassion, kindness and nurturing for ourselves and others.

Find, remind yourself, come back to or let go of whatever you have to so that your beautiful heart is felt by anyone who crosses your path. That love is not meant to be shared with only one or a few, it’s meant to be shared with the whole world.

At the end of the day it’s really about who you CHOOSE to share your love with and that it’s not something that is only reserved for that one man or woman that meet all your rules of love. You can love anyone that deeply no matter who they are.

Don’t wait for the perfect person or circumstances to share your love. Choose to love because that is your true nature and what has always been inside of you.

Much Love

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4 Things To Do Everyday To Raise Your Vibration

4 Things To Do Everyday To Raise Your Vibration

1. Meditate everyday for 15 minutes

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2. Go outside, no matter what the weather. 
Move around in it in appreciation of this planet.
Look up and around and find things to acknowledge.
Talk about these things right out loud. Talk to everything.
Tell them they’re your favorite.. Favorite rock, tree, frog, flower..

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3. Buy a notebook, call it “My Positive Aspects.” 
Fill it with 3, 4, 5 is even better, pages, with positive aspects.
5 different subjects and write all the positive aspects of each of them.
This will train your vibration into that upward place.

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4. Look upward and outward.
Best if you do it outside or standing near a window.
Acknowledge that there are universal forces that are focused.. Right.At.You.
Acknowledge it (call it by your chosen name)

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It could sound something like this:

I acknowledge that I’m the object of your positive intention and I’m appreciating your continual gaze on behalf of my well-being. And today, no matter where I am, no matter where I am going, no matter what I am doing and no matter who I am doing it with, I will be in conscious awareness that you too are there with me. Appreciating me, supporting me, assisting me, acknowledging me, inspiring me, guiding me, having fun with me, helping me, aware of me, loving me, showing me, uplifting me.

Get into an endless loop of that acknowledgement and watch what begins to happen in your life, as soon as this day.

“Your vortex is filled to the brim with specific requests that you have put there and that you are deserving of the realization of. And it’s time for those realizations to be flooding into your experience at a rate that will astonish those who surround you. It’s time for you to remember what you’ve put there and to bring it forward active into your today experience.”

– Abraham Hicks

Accepting Others As They Are

Accepting Others As They Are
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Being a life coach has served in many ways but not always in times when stepping back and holding space for others could have served a much deeper and profound purpose. Not needing to “fix” it or direct in some way.  Simply and openly holding a kind and loving space.
This has now become part of my coaching practice.

Acceptance of others is one of the great lessons on this journey.
It Empowers us, Frees us, Lightens us and in turn radiates out inviting and evoking the same in others.

So many of us say we’re loving unconditionally, but are we really?
Are we holding the space for others to have their own journey, their own experiences, without feeling the need to give our opinion of what WE think they should change based on our beliefs and rule systems?

I humbly admit it, I’ve said that I loved unconditionally. But honestly, at times, I haven’t.
I’ve had expectations, especially in intimate relationships, and had ideas of what I think others should do, say or be.
Looking back, I can clearly see that there were times I disempowered others by trying to change things for them rather then Inspire, Encourage, Empower and just Love them.
Being there to believe in them, have faith and trust that they’re on their own path.

When you catch yourself wanting to “help” someone by giving them your opinion, advice or wanting to change things for them, STOP, take a deep breath and bring the focus back to you and why you think you need to change those around you.  It’s no longer about them, it’s a reflection of you.

Let it go..

Be in relationship with yourself. Put your focus on your happiness first.

Let go of the attachment, idea or belief that isn’t serving you.. Not the person, it’s never about them.

Your needing for others to change, your uncomfortability, is only in the attachment that others should somehow be anything other then they are.

Others don’t have to do everything you do or live the way you live.  It’s all a choice and we all have our own paths to follow.

Remember, your version of happiness isn’t the same as theirs.

When we learn true acceptance, not only do we get to give Acceptance but we get to receive it too.
True acceptance always starts with self first.  All parts we accept and appreciate in ourselves will be the same parts we accept and appreciate in others.

Being a life coach has served in many ways but not always in times when stepping back and holding space for others could have served a much deeper and profound purpose. Not needing to “fix” it or direct in some way.  Simply and openly holding a kind and loving space.
This has now become part of my coaching practice.

Acceptance of others is one of the great lessons on this journey.
It Empowers us, Frees us, Lightens us and in turn radiates out inviting and evoking the same in others.

So many of us say we’re loving unconditionally, but are we really?
Are we holding the space for others to have their own journey, their own experiences, without feeling the need to give our opinion of what WE think they should change based on our beliefs and rule systems?

I humbly admit it, I’ve said that I loved unconditionally. But honestly, at times, I haven’t.
I’ve had expectations, especially in intimate relationships, and had ideas of what I think others should do, say or be.
Looking back, I can clearly see that there were times I disempowered others by trying to change things for them rather then Inspire, Encourage, Empower and just Love them.
Being there to believe in them, have faith and trust that they’re on their own path.

When you catch yourself wanting to “help” someone by giving them your opinion, advice or wanting to change things for them, STOP, take a deep breath and bring the focus back to you and why you think you need to change those around you.  It’s no longer about them, it’s a reflection of you.

Let it go..

Be in relationship with yourself. Put your focus on your happiness first.

Let go of the attachment, idea or belief that isn’t serving you.. Not the person, it’s never about them.

Your needing for others to change, your uncomfortability, is only in the attachment that others should somehow be anything other then they are.

Others don’t have to do everything you do or live the way you live.  It’s all a choice and we all have our own paths to follow.

Remember, your version of happiness isn’t the same as theirs.

When we learn true acceptance, not only do we get to give Acceptance but we get to receive it too.
True acceptance always starts with self first.  All parts we accept and appreciate in ourselves will be the same parts we accept and appreciate in others.

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Follow Your Truth

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We all go through times of self doubt and we all need reminding of who we really are to stay on our heart centred path. – Especially those who are on a deep spiritual journey – It can feel lonely at times.  I assure you, you are not alone.

Friends and families might think you’re crazy, judge your lifestyle, how you perceive the world or how you see other.  Don’t you dare listen to them.. you know your truth.  Stay true that.

There’s a calling inside of us, deep in our hearts.  There’s an innate knowing that we’re here to love deeply and to share that love no matter the circumstances. The daily dramas and tasks are so minute compared to what we’re here for and what is out there that our shortsighted minds can’t wrap around.  I know you feel a longing from within. Almost like you’re homesick for a place you can’t remember and can only feel.

I want you to know that you’re here for a great purpose. I’m here to remind you, in times of challenges and uncertainty, that you are magnificence in form and you are powerfully loved.  You ARE love.  And you are here to share that with others.  You are here to help heal and change this planet. You are here to help shift the consciousness of our world and the collective.  You’re here to mess up, to forget, to feel all the many emotions, to make mistakes, to be uncomfortable and to forget why you’re here.  You are here to have fun, play, love, laugh, share and do a whole bunch of crazy shit.

In times of question or self-doubt, always remember your strength, your calling, your purpose, your wisdom, your deepest truth and heart.  You are a glorious and wondrous being who is loved deeply by Source.  Source will always be with you and bring you signs of how to help humanity and the world.  There will be many signs. If you’re still and listen you will hear them. You can trust them.

Don’t you ever let the outside world affect your knowing, your capacity to stay open and your calling to share love with all who cross your path.  This world needs that more than ever and you’re here to share it.
Do whatever you have to on this journey to stay connected with Source and continue to allow that to guide you.  Don’t you dare give up on or question your truth, never.  You are here for great purpose.

We don’t know what our journey will bring us but we should know we are only here to enjoy the ride. It is useless to judge because only the universe knows what is really happening. When you follow your heart and your instincts – only good can come from that.

Good is that which feels good and comes only from your heart.

Be Blessed,

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7 WAYS TO CLEAR EMOTIONAL CHARGES

7 WAYS TO CLEAR EMOTIONAL CHARGES

We all have times in our lives where we feel frustrated, angry, anxious or hurt and a lot of times we don’t know what to do with these emotions or how to let them go.  We have created a society where emotions are pushed down or we pretend that everything’s ok.  This doesn’t serve anyone and can create so much dis-ease in our bodies and dis-harmony in our relationships. There’s not a whole lot of space for growth or deep healing for ourselves or our planet when we avoid what’s coming up to be healed.

So, How do we let them go and allow them to be transformed into something that opens us rather then using them to close us down, push away from others or blame the outside world? How can we transform them into a beautiful surrender and healing?

Here are a few things I’ve done that have really helped me on my own healing journey.
Know that sometimes what works one day may not work the next and it is up to each of us to find the processes that work best to help us transform emotions into deeper levels of healing and consciousness.

1. Move your body:

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Move that energy!!!
Get out for a walk or jog. Moving your body is an awesome way to shake out the tension and start transforming the energy. Not to mention that exercise releases endorphins, which is one of the brains feel good drugs.

2. Break or Burn:

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A few times I’ve gone to the dollar store, bought plates and smashed them. I take a permanent marker and write what is coming up for me.. Maybe you’re mad at something that happened that day, maybe it’s something from the past that’s coming up to let go or you’ve been hurt by something someone said or did.  Write it on the plate and go smash it.  It feels so Amazing to get it out and helps relieve the tension!! Just make sure to clean up the mess 😉

Another great way to write and get it out, that is a little less messy, is to write what you’re feeling on a piece of paper and burn it.  As it burns image that it is going out to the universe to be taken care of and you no longer have to worry about it or carry it around with you.

3. Call A Friend:

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Call a friend that you feel understands you and ask them to just hold a space of healing and listening for you.  Ask them to give you 5 minutes to rant about whatever it is that’s bothering you.  We all need someone that gets it and just lets us get it out so we can fill back up on the good stuff. Make sure that the 5 minutes is timed so your friend doesn’t have to listen to you go on and on. Once you’re 5 minutes is up, find a solution or just be done with it and let it go.

4. Laugh:

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Go watch a funny movie, listen to a comedian, do things that make you feel like a kid again or connect with friends that make you laugh.  Laughing is one of the greatest medicines and can change anyones state from grumpy to happy in seconds.

5. Dance:

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Put your favorite music on and dance your booty off!
Music has a magical way of lifting up our spirits.  Throw your arms around, shake your hips, sing and have fun! Maybe even work up a sweat.

6. Make Some Noise:

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Allow yourself to make whatever noise is connected to the feeling(s).  Maybe they are high pitched or grunts or even sound like some weird animal call. This one is especially great if you feel you haven’t been heard or have something that you need to say.  It will help open up and free your throat chakra.

7. Meditate:

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When you feel emotions come up take time to be still and sit with them. If you need to cry then do it and clear it out.
The more you resist and try to forget or push them away, the more you feed it.
Surrender, sit in the fire and allow it to burn away.

Go inside your body and see where the emotion is coming from.
Talk to it!
I know it sounds kind of strange but it helps, a lot.  When you can ask what it wants, why it’s there, and how you can help it transform, you will be amazed at what you hear back. Make it your friend.
When you can sit with whatever comes up, without needing to change it, it will transform. It will turn into a space for healing, insights and bring peace to your heart and mind.

Most of us allow the outside world to affect us and we quickly get caught up in it. It doesn’t have to be that way. Yes, emotions will always come up.. The question is, will you choose to honour and clear them, will you stay caught in them or will you allow them to come into the light to be transformed and healed?

In each of us is the courage to follow our calling and dive into a journey of healing, letting go and transformation. It’s not always the easiest journey but it’s most worth it.

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